The idea of being whole or happy on your own, or the act of just practicing self-love, really, is a challenge for me. Until recently, I didn't realize how self-damaging it can be when you forget about yourself. The saying, “you can’t love someone until you love yourself” has become a mantra of mine. My priorities have been characterized by my insecurity and anxiety of not being enough, not being wanted by someone. It’s incredibly destructive to give into these things, placing your whole self-worth and happiness into the hands of someone else. It’s hard not to get caught up within someone and forget about yourself, who you are, what you really need versus what you think you need. This craving for validation and security from someone else is human, but it can get toxic so quickly; it becomes all-consuming. It creates this void within you, one that I thought I could fill externally, hoping I could stop this persistent feeling of emptiness. I didn’t realize it for a long time, but the only person who can fill this void was myself. When you choose to make yourself matter, to validate your own self-worth, that’s when you find the capacity to let people in, because you know that you are enough without them.
Take time to look after you, its exciting to get to know yourself on a deeper level, who you are without the clutter of anxiety and self-doubt. You realize that you are enough, that you can be happy on your own. That you are allowed to like yourself without someone else determining whether or not you are likeable. Being authentically me, secure with myself, is something I’ve decided I have to make a priority. I owe myself love first."
Hannah is the mastermind behind Refreshed, a youth driven mental health revolution. They've just updated their mission statement (read it below!) and joining the conversation is as simple as clicking the link!
“Refreshing Standards - or simply Refreshed, based out of Edmonton, Alberta, was initially created out of the need for an open dialogue around the ideals that media imposes on our bodies, together with the resulting negative effects on our mental health. Since then it has grown into a broader discussion of mental health. We believe that mental health should be an inclusive conversation for everyone, on the active process of making your mind a priority. We want to know your story: how do you keep your mind and body healthy, what do you do to make sure you’re doing okay? These are the questions that we want to ask. To us, the conversation on mental health needs to involve both mental illness and mental wellness equally. Let’s make it okay to make your mind matter-- to even be your #YourOwnIdeal"